“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser—in fees, expenses and waste of time.” – Abraham Lincoln
Mediation emphasizes communication, compromise and cooperation. The process offers financial savings to the participants by reducing legal fees. Because most cases settle in mediation, not only do the parents obtain a financial benefit, but so does the court system.
Mediation allows the parties to determine the best course of action based on their particular needs. It allows them to directly determine the course of their lives without a stranger, a judge, telling them how to live their lives. We see the individual as best suited to voicing his or her needs. Mediation is an attractive alternative in family disputes because it empowers the parties to devise their own agreements which meet their own needs.
There is better compliance with an agreement that the parties create over one foisted upon them. This ensures greater contact between non-custodial parent and child as well as greater emotional and financial support of the family. Custody arrangements decided through a mediated process tend to increase the amount of time the child spends with the non-custodial parents. This in turn lessens society's burden in supporting broken families through public support and social services.
Not only creating a customized plan, but consenting to the state's authority to maintain jurisdiction over the plan causes better compliance than court-imposed outcomes.
We value speedy resolution of disputes with the lowest cost possible to society. Time represents not only money but also frustration and uncertainty. A mediated custody plan can be completed in several hours compared to a litigated case which could take years to complete as well as substantial costs. The timely custody decision also reduces the stress on a family involved in a custody fight in an adversarial setting.
The confidential nature of mediation allows the parties to address issues which would be too embarrassing to bring to court, thus making an agreement a better fit for that family. Because of the private nature of the mediation process, the parties are not publicly humiliated and this helps strengthen the parenting role the parties need to maintain. Mediation is more relaxed and comfortable for the parties while the ceremony of the court room can be intimidating.
Another benefit of mediation is an improved ability of the parties to communicate. The parties in mediation address their issues face to face, eliminating some of the misunderstandings which arise when attorneys are in control of the discussion. They have an opportunity to vent their feelings and look at their real needs and strengths. Mediation teaches the parents to communicate more effectively, both at the time of the mediation and into the future as they pick up the skills during the process to make agreements.
As a result of better communication skills parents and children can maintain better relationships during and after a divorce. Strong relationships between children and their parents means less court involvement int he future. Studies show that children adjust better to divorce in cases that involve frequent contact with both parents. Juvenile delinquency and social services are diminished when there is parental involvement.
The basic elements of private mediation are: voluntary participation, equal bargaining power, neutrality of the third party facilitator, and confidentiality.
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